I adore Christmas. I’m a planner and a note-maker, and always need to have something to look forward to, so for me, the build up is one of my favourite parts: choosing and wrapping special gifts, planning and buying all the food, decorating the house with scented candles and twinkling lights… it all makes me really happy . We had a gorgeous Christmas this year, and rounded off the season with a small New Year’s Eve gathering with some of our favourite people. Now, though, I’m already wanting the decorations down, the house clean and tidy again, and I’ll be raring to dive headfirst into this squeaky clean, fresh and sparkly New Year. One of the first things I’ll be doing is opening a lovely new notebook and creating my positive life plan for 2018.
About the positive life plan
Regular readers will know that my friend: writer, blogger, and life coach, Erica Douglas, and I originally came up with the positive life plan when we were on holiday together. We were just chatting about life and the germ of an idea started to form: we split the main topics of our thoughts into different categories: health, fitness, money, beauty/personal style, relationships, work/personal brand, quality time, aspirations, self, and added the rule that everything had to be positive, no being hard on ourselves. We thought it would give us the opportunity to perform a positive life edit that we could continue to work on and refer back to now and again to keep ourselves on track. Basically the plan is as simple or as complicated as you make it. Many people have said that they have a notebook split into sections, and just keep track of their thoughts and feelings on each topic, updating and editing every so often, but do whatever suits you. This month, we’re focusing on the first category of the positive life plan: self.
So in the spirit of my positive life plan, I thought I’d have a few words about the dreaded b-word, and why we ALL should be wearing one if we want to. I’m no expert, but here’s my 40-something guide to feeling fab in a bikini, and why I won’t be rolling out the swimming costumes any time soon!
Yesterday was a nightmare. After waiting up until midnight to pick Charlie up from a party (aren’t I a nice mama?), we were then up at the crack of dawn to get Mr English back to Heathrow to go back on duty after his week off. Then there was a van fire on the M25 so we were stuck in traffic for two hours, nearly missing the flight, and THEN on the way back I realised that not only was I dangerously low on petrol after all that hanging around, but I’d also forgotten my handbag. ARGH.
I was chatting to my homey Erica recently about making changes. Every so often I get to a stage where I think: yup, things have got to change. I’m full of enthusiasm for a few days and then it tails off. Current moans include:
Organisation. We can’t seem to get out the door in the mornings on time without forgotten ID cards, missing ties and the wrong books. Birthdays have been missed, essential supplies have run out and appointments have been forgotten.
Housework (especially ironing) getting on top of me (not literally ahaha).
Letting other people bring me down.
Feeling guilty about saying no (or just not saying it when I know I should), especially work wise.
Getting too involved in the boys’ lives and, hence, worrying too much.
Crap time management: spending far too much time on Twitter and checking emails.
Not having enough self confidence generally.
The self confidence thing is ridiculous. I have lovely friends who would definitely tell me if I was being a knob, so I’m pretty sure I’m not one, but still I worry incessantly about saying/doing the wrong thing, whether I’ve upset people and about what people think of me. I know, deep down, that I shouldn’t care. But I can’t stop myself. Erica said she’d learned to ’embrace my weirdness’, which I think is fab. After all, if you can’t love you, how do you expect anyone else to?
So what do you reckon, then? How do you have a sort out when things are all at sea? I feel like I need to set myself some ‘rules’, but I’m not even sure what they should be, apart from:
1. Embrace my inner weirdo
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