Comments on: Working/part-time/at home with kids? We’re all female, remember? http://englishmum.com/2009/06/08/workingpart-timeat-home-with-kids-were-all-female-remember/ A shining star of wonderful gorgeousness Thu, 02 Sep 2010 08:31:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Guilt tripping | Dulwich Divorcee http://englishmum.com/2009/06/08/workingpart-timeat-home-with-kids-were-all-female-remember/comment-page-1/#comment-202400 Guilt tripping | Dulwich Divorcee Tue, 06 Oct 2009 14:00:06 +0000 http://englishmum.com/?p=2570#comment-202400 [...] of us who aren’t in the office 24/7 are living lives of gin-soaked misery. Potty Mummy and English Mum have written excellently on the whole issue, so I won’t rehash it all, except to say I think [...] [...] of us who aren’t in the office 24/7 are living lives of gin-soaked misery. Potty Mummy and English Mum have written excellently on the whole issue, so I won’t rehash it all, except to say I think [...]

]]> By: English Mum http://englishmum.com/2009/06/08/workingpart-timeat-home-with-kids-were-all-female-remember/comment-page-1/#comment-154194 English Mum Fri, 12 Jun 2009 10:29:34 +0000 http://englishmum.com/?p=2570#comment-154194 Glam: Welcome! I saw a link from you here recently, but couldn't open the page. Glad you popped by. Yes I know exactly what you're saying - sometimes it's the woman that gets blamed for husband stealing while the 'stolen' hubby gets away with it! Not cricket, that x Glam: Welcome! I saw a link from you here recently, but couldn’t open the page. Glad you popped by. Yes I know exactly what you’re saying – sometimes it’s the woman that gets blamed for husband stealing while the ‘stolen’ hubby gets away with it! Not cricket, that x

]]> By: Glamumous http://englishmum.com/2009/06/08/workingpart-timeat-home-with-kids-were-all-female-remember/comment-page-1/#comment-154179 Glamumous Fri, 12 Jun 2009 10:18:36 +0000 http://englishmum.com/?p=2570#comment-154179 As they say, "The grass is always greener on the other side"... I've been a SAHM, a full-time working while studying mum, and now a WAHM. There is no perfect solution - the best we can hope for is balance and happiness. I do hate how some women abandon notions of sisterhood and choose to bitch about each other. We are all women, complicated and benevolent for sure, but women and sisters the same. A while back I remember finding a site where women could post about bad exes (for other women to read and make informed choices about possible relationships with these guys). Wish I could remember the site's name... Anyway, it would give me satisfaction to find a site like this which exposes predatory women. Even though my saying that is unsisterly in itself... In some ways I am still divided on the subject of predatory women and unfaithful men. On one hand, men's instincts are far more animalistic than ours: they are much more likely to cheat in a relationship than women, while scarlet women know exactly what they are getting into when attempting to steal a married/otherwise attached. On the other hand, aren't our partners the ones actually doing the cheating? The "other women" are not related to us, or really a part of our lives. The one thing which does satisfy me is the knowledge that while men are more likely to cheat, only a small percentage would actually leave their partners for the other woman ;) As they say, “The grass is always greener on the other side”… I’ve been a SAHM, a full-time working while studying mum, and now a WAHM. There is no perfect solution – the best we can hope for is balance and happiness.

I do hate how some women abandon notions of sisterhood and choose to bitch about each other. We are all women, complicated and benevolent for sure, but women and sisters the same.

A while back I remember finding a site where women could post about bad exes (for other women to read and make informed choices about possible relationships with these guys). Wish I could remember the site’s name… Anyway, it would give me satisfaction to find a site like this which exposes predatory women. Even though my saying that is unsisterly in itself…

In some ways I am still divided on the subject of predatory women and unfaithful men. On one hand, men’s instincts are far more animalistic than ours: they are much more likely to cheat in a relationship than women, while scarlet women know exactly what they are getting into when attempting to steal a married/otherwise attached.

On the other hand, aren’t our partners the ones actually doing the cheating? The “other women” are not related to us, or really a part of our lives.

The one thing which does satisfy me is the knowledge that while men are more likely to cheat, only a small percentage would actually leave their partners for the other woman ;)

]]> By: English Mum http://englishmum.com/2009/06/08/workingpart-timeat-home-with-kids-were-all-female-remember/comment-page-1/#comment-153853 English Mum Thu, 11 Jun 2009 16:58:07 +0000 http://englishmum.com/?p=2570#comment-153853 Jen: Welcome! And thanks - it's nice to hear someone who so obviously appreciates their friends. And I agree, supporting each other as we all just try to get by is what counts xx Jen: Welcome! And thanks – it’s nice to hear someone who so obviously appreciates their friends. And I agree, supporting each other as we all just try to get by is what counts xx

]]> By: jen http://englishmum.com/2009/06/08/workingpart-timeat-home-with-kids-were-all-female-remember/comment-page-1/#comment-153851 jen Thu, 11 Jun 2009 16:50:42 +0000 http://englishmum.com/?p=2570#comment-153851 What a great post, well said. I'm so lucky to have met a group of wonderful mums myself. Some of us work, some of us don't. some of us breastfeed, some of us don't. We are all trying to do our best for our families in our own way and that is what really counts. Jen What a great post, well said.
I’m so lucky to have met a group of wonderful mums myself. Some of us work, some of us don’t. some of us breastfeed, some of us don’t. We are all trying to do our best for our families in our own way and that is what really counts.
Jen

]]> By: English Mum http://englishmum.com/2009/06/08/workingpart-timeat-home-with-kids-were-all-female-remember/comment-page-1/#comment-153453 English Mum Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:04:31 +0000 http://englishmum.com/?p=2570#comment-153453 Sandra: yeh it made me laugh too - one of my friends commented that the last time she had a gin-soaked afternoon was WELL before she had kids!! And thanks, it means a lot that you think that xx Sandra: yeh it made me laugh too – one of my friends commented that the last time she had a gin-soaked afternoon was WELL before she had kids!! And thanks, it means a lot that you think that xx

]]> By: Sandra http://englishmum.com/2009/06/08/workingpart-timeat-home-with-kids-were-all-female-remember/comment-page-1/#comment-153449 Sandra Wed, 10 Jun 2009 18:41:38 +0000 http://englishmum.com/?p=2570#comment-153449 "Gin-soaked afternoons" snort! Whoever wrote that, NEVER had two toddlers and a baby around. I can't even imagine trying to keep up with them if I even sniffed the gin bottle. What a load of mis-informed rot. By the way, this is an excellent, excellent post. Well done. “Gin-soaked afternoons” snort! Whoever wrote that, NEVER had two toddlers and a baby around. I can’t even imagine trying to keep up with them if I even sniffed the gin bottle. What a load of mis-informed rot.
By the way, this is an excellent, excellent post. Well done.

]]> By: English Mum http://englishmum.com/2009/06/08/workingpart-timeat-home-with-kids-were-all-female-remember/comment-page-1/#comment-153248 English Mum Wed, 10 Jun 2009 09:20:43 +0000 http://englishmum.com/?p=2570#comment-153248 Lulu: And you're right. She totally was. Okay. We'll let you take the cellulite pics then. x Lulu: And you’re right. She totally was. Okay. We’ll let you take the cellulite pics then. x

]]> By: Lulu campbell http://englishmum.com/2009/06/08/workingpart-timeat-home-with-kids-were-all-female-remember/comment-page-1/#comment-153237 Lulu campbell Wed, 10 Jun 2009 09:04:45 +0000 http://englishmum.com/?p=2570#comment-153237 I am very happy to be a volunteer - I am totally with you on this - especially as I was once in the unenviable position of finding myself on the end of a phone telling my husbands mistress that I thought she was letting the side down when it came to the sisterhood (possibly said in slightly stronger terms at the time) Lx I am very happy to be a volunteer – I am totally with you on this – especially as I was once in the unenviable position of finding myself on the end of a phone telling my husbands mistress that I thought she was letting the side down when it came to the sisterhood (possibly said in slightly stronger terms at the time) Lx

]]> By: English Mum http://englishmum.com/2009/06/08/workingpart-timeat-home-with-kids-were-all-female-remember/comment-page-1/#comment-153208 English Mum Wed, 10 Jun 2009 07:28:09 +0000 http://englishmum.com/?p=2570#comment-153208 Susan: wise words indeed. I worked nights when #1 was first born - a total killer - you walk around in a weird fug half-caused by lack of sleep and half by having a new baby. I hardly remember any of it! Oh and thanks for saying such nice things. It wouldn't be the same without my 'gang' here to chat to! xx Susan: wise words indeed. I worked nights when #1 was first born – a total killer – you walk around in a weird fug half-caused by lack of sleep and half by having a new baby. I hardly remember any of it!

Oh and thanks for saying such nice things. It wouldn’t be the same without my ‘gang’ here to chat to! xx

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