Comments on: The one that never was

By: English Mum

English Mum — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 10:05:00 +0000

K8: As you said in your own lovely piece, it’s comforting to know you’re not as alone as you thing you are. xx

By: K8

K8 — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 01:54:49 +0000

Oh gosh I’d forgotten about the birthdays… I remember signing up to one of those baby advice sites… eumom or rollercoaster or something, they sent me information about the various stages my baby was going through but I didn’t ask them to remove me from their mailing lists when I miscarried, until two years later. I’ve no idea why. I wanted to be reminded I guess. Thanks for writing this.

xxx

By: English Mum

English Mum — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 14:25:25 +0000

Jay: Ah, that’s sad. You see, it’s the ‘what could’ve been’ that’s the challenge, I think x

Queenie: It’s been lovely to hear everyone’s experiences and thoughts on this. I tell ye, writing a blog’s better than therapy!! Mwah xx

By: Queenie

Queenie — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 22:19:43 +0000

EM, sometimes we need the boys to question us, however hard it is to give a straight answer, because it’s the only way they will learn to be honest about their lives and their feelings. Mine always ask about things that happened before they were born, (#2 usually wants to know how good Kenny Dagliesh really was…..

When I had my #4 son, very prem and in SCBU, they put me in the post natal ward…it was awful, but not as bad as losing a baby, as happened to my sister in law.

Thanks for sharing that with us. xx

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By: Jay

Jay — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 23:35:49 +0000

Oh, I’m so sorry… hugs to you! Yes, kids do have that openness and innocence, dont’ they? Sometimes it does mean awkward questions, but kudos to you for going with it and being open right back.

My Mum lost a baby after she’d had me. Would have been a girl, the sister I never had. I often wonder how much different life would have been if she’d lived.

By: English Mum

English Mum — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 19:28:25 +0000

Susan: Ooh, scary stuff. Must have been awful to have been separated from your new baby. x

Wee One: Too right. The only downside with having no secrets is that they tend to blurt out our personal stuff in public

By: Wee Jen

Wee Jen — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 11:35:56 +0000

It’s nice to be open with the boys about something like this. Too many families have secrets.

One of my old teachers lost her first child this way as well and, yes, she was placed on the maternity ward too. So utterly cruel.

By: SUSAN B

SUSAN B — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 20:18:38 +0000

I came within a hair’s breadth of full term loss with #1 – didn’t know HOW close until later but she was whisked away to another hospital to tend to the life threatening malfunction she suffered and there I was amid all the new mums & babies – they didn’t send you home right away in those days so I had to practically sign my life away to get out of there before going mad! And yes, Jennifer, these things DO arise out of nowhere sometimes. My heart goes out to all who’ve had to deal with the imperfections of procreation – it sometimes seems like a bloddy crap shoot as to how it will turn out! Hugs all ’round!

By: English Mum

English Mum — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 14:42:01 +0000

Jennifer: Yep. I know just how it is. x