Comments on: Nature versus Nutter http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/ Living in Ireland, shopping, kids, greyhounds, cooking, more shopping and a load of rubbish about, well, nothing really Fri, 21 Nov 2008 20:42:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: englishmuminireland http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-202 englishmuminireland Fri, 28 Sep 2007 09:29:19 +0000 http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-202 Aussie: welcome! It's fascinating stuff isn't it. Especially interesting given your particular circumstances. Wonder what Mr James would make of that? Aussie: welcome! It’s fascinating stuff isn’t it. Especially interesting given your particular circumstances. Wonder what Mr James would make of that?

]]> By: englishmuminireland http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-201 englishmuminireland Fri, 28 Sep 2007 09:24:44 +0000 http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-201 73: I think you should. In fact, I think you should write it for me and I'll put it under my 'Life Lessons' umbrella. Every one of those things you mentioned seems like a lesson we could all do with learning. 73: I think you should. In fact, I think you should write it for me and I’ll put it under my ‘Life Lessons’ umbrella. Every one of those things you mentioned seems like a lesson we could all do with learning.

]]> By: Coastal Aussie http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-200 Coastal Aussie Thu, 27 Sep 2007 12:03:33 +0000 http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-200 Hi. Very interesting entry.... There's a big age gap between me and my siblings, and I'm not sure if I'm not an eldest child mixed in with a youngest, because as I grew up I felt I had to be perfect to make to for their perceived mistakes and hostility towards my parents. As I mature, I'm trying to lose that feeling of responsibility for others but it isn't particularly easy. Hi. Very interesting entry…. There’s a big age gap between me and my siblings, and I’m not sure if I’m not an eldest child mixed in with a youngest, because as I grew up I felt I had to be perfect to make to for their perceived mistakes and hostility towards my parents. As I mature, I’m trying to lose that feeling of responsibility for others but it isn’t particularly easy.

]]> By: 73man http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-199 73man Thu, 27 Sep 2007 11:58:10 +0000 http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-199 Where do I begin now. I led myself there more likely. She helps me, prompting at the right time and good shrink won't steer too much I think. Places? realisation that I'm not a superhuman being with control over everything, that I have to let go of things that are so far in the past that they only matter to my own memory, that unpredictability is welcome, that being in the present moment is more important than worrying about something that may or may not happen at all in the future, that my gf's feelings are real and to treat her badly is a reflection on me and not her, the usual boy things, not to take myself so seriously etc etc..... One day I'll blog about this in more detail. Where do I begin now. I led myself there more likely. She helps me, prompting at the right time and good shrink won’t steer too much I think.

Places? realisation that I’m not a superhuman being with control over everything, that I have to let go of things that are so far in the past that they only matter to my own memory, that unpredictability is welcome, that being in the present moment is more important than worrying about something that may or may not happen at all in the future, that my gf’s feelings are real and to treat her badly is a reflection on me and not her, the usual boy things, not to take myself so seriously etc etc…..

One day I’ll blog about this in more detail.

]]> By: englishmuminireland http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-198 englishmuminireland Thu, 27 Sep 2007 11:44:37 +0000 http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-198 73: Interesting stuff. Has your shrink led you to places you never knew could exist? And if so, where? 73: Interesting stuff. Has your shrink led you to places you never knew could exist? And if so, where?

]]> By: 73man http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-197 73man Thu, 27 Sep 2007 10:52:26 +0000 http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-197 "So okay, one shouldn't spend too long analysing oneself. I'm sure it's very unhealthy. " Can vouch for that definitely. I've learned more in my commitment to analysis on the couch than any amount of navel gazing by myself. If you have a good shrink though she/he can stave you away from mere narcissim and lead you to places that you never knew could exist...seriously. On the siblings and ideas in this book, I'm a middler and can say with some degree of surety that I look up to the older one and want to mollycoddle the younger one. Always trying to steer a middle course in arguments, not giving firm answers, difficulty with commitment and all that stuff too though. Remember as well that your parents are dynamically thinking people with their own growth paths too. I forgot this years ago and my shrink is probably the only beneficiary! “So okay, one shouldn’t spend too long analysing oneself. I’m sure it’s very unhealthy. ”

Can vouch for that definitely. I’ve learned more in my commitment to analysis on the couch than any amount of navel gazing by myself. If you have a good shrink though she/he can stave you away from mere narcissim and lead you to places that you never knew could exist…seriously.

On the siblings and ideas in this book, I’m a middler and can say with some degree of surety that I look up to the older one and want to mollycoddle the younger one. Always trying to steer a middle course in arguments, not giving firm answers, difficulty with commitment and all that stuff too though. Remember as well that your parents are dynamically thinking people with their own growth paths too. I forgot this years ago and my shrink is probably the only beneficiary!

]]> By: englishmuminireland http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-196 englishmuminireland Thu, 27 Sep 2007 09:10:53 +0000 http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-196 Hmmm possibly, but you'd need to read the whole book, I've only just touched on the factors that affect us. Some of his arguments are certainly compelling. Point taken, though Mullers. Hmmm possibly, but you’d need to read the whole book, I’ve only just touched on the factors that affect us. Some of his arguments are certainly compelling. Point taken, though Mullers.

]]> By: The Muller http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-193 The Muller Wed, 26 Sep 2007 23:20:37 +0000 http://englishmum.com/2007/09/26/nature-versus-nutter/#comment-193 It sounds like O. James has adopted the same scattergun approach used by astrologers in the popular press. That is, fire off enough theories and one of them will fit your personality. It sounds like O. James has adopted the same scattergun approach used by astrologers in the popular press. That is, fire off enough theories and one of them will fit your personality.

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